@unchartedworlds TIL about steel-manning, it really sounds useful! When it comes to analogies though I think it may not be the right tool because arguing against an analogy requires to point out exactly where it breaks down instead of focusing on where it confirms the opposing argument. For example I could argue that it's fine to take pictures of birds on the street, but this would be an obviously bad argument for stalking people because people are not birds.
I described how I interpreted your analogy, I think this is as far as I can get describing what I think you think (lacking psychic abilities).
I also tried to explain our differences in thinking, and I'm genuinely curious if there's any point I miss (where I didn't manage to steel-man enough)!